183. 6 Months Post-Silence {with Jared}

Welcome to 100 Ways. This is your daily exploration of self and soul. I'm your host and fellow explorer, Laura Christine. Let's dive in and find our way home. Jared went to a silent retreat and I'm wondering. What Jared. Has taken away that has lasted. For six months. From his silent and retreat. Take it away jared. Great. Thank you. The most durable. Memory. Or the most durable takeaway. From that retreat. Has been. My ability to. Watch. My own reactions. To stimulus. I haven't necessarily been able to change my reactions or. Better yet have planned responses to stimulus. But I do feel like I've been able to observe. My reactions. An example of this might be. I am sometimes quite triggered by one of my children. She seems to know. What triggers me better than I do. And. I often have blind reactions to. Things she does or says. I would say a year ago before I. Learn the techniques of vipashyana. Aye. Could blindly react to. What my daughter was saying or doing. And then weeks later I would look back and say, wow, that was a really. Strange way to respond to a child behaving in that way. But that would be it. And now. I can see it as it's happening. I can see myself making. It doesn't even feel like a decision I was going to say, I can see myself making the decision, but I just have a. Blind reaction to what my child is doing. What I'm working towards is being able to respond. To my child in a way that is. Peaceful and loving and understanding of the fact that. My child is a child. And also that my child is a human who. Has. The rights to. Be treated with respect and have their dignity recognized and. To be. Seeing as a full and functioning. Person. Rather than the ways I find myself often treating my kids. Which are not in alignment with those values. Maybe to sum that up a little bit more abstractly. I have taken with me this idea that I can do things differently than I've done them in the past. Everything I've done in the past. Worked. If it hadn't, I wouldn't be here right now. So it's easy for me to get attached to my old ways of doing things. But in observing my thoughts and observing. The. Nature of my mind. I'm beginning to realize that I can do things differently. I believe those are the two. Main takeaways that I've had the things that have been most durable since spending that time in silence. Thank you so much. Do you still do the, like meditation every day that you learned? No, I don't. I. Have. Strangely only meditated a few times since coming back from that retreat. I shouldn't say strangely, that's actually kind of a judgment I have of myself that I should be meditating more often. Um, that if I meditate more often, I might get closer to my goals and life might be a little bit easier. But the fact is I haven't. Perfect. And are you enjoying life? Well, In this moment, are you enjoying life, Jared? Yes am. I find life to be quite fulfilling and I am. I am very content. I do still have. Attachments to ideas for the future. And. Uh, regrets from the past that. I haven't been able to free myself of the bonds to those attachments, but. Generally, I have a low amount of suffering right now in my life. And I am quite content. I'm happy to hear that. And sometimes I think we think we need to do our spiritual practice when. Really our spiritual practice is just being present in the now moment. And it doesn't have to look like meditating for a certain amount of time every day, or doing a certain yoga pose or working up to anything. It's just being here right now. And recognizing that this is it. Yeah. Yeah. L I V I N. That's Matthew McConaughey would say. Thank you for that. All right, Derek. Thank you so much. Appreciate you always for coming on. You're welcome thanks llc And thank you for listening. If you want to hear Jared's thoughts about the actual retreat that he went to. Right after he went to it, go back to episodes 41 42. 45 and 46. They're short and sweet. And you actually have some of Ethan spiritual tour of India. And Nepal in the middle there in and 44. So that's a really good little sandwich. I would recommend taking a bite of that. If you want to support the show and keep it growing and going. Go to buy me a coffee.com/ 1 0 0 ways. You can also book yourself a reading there. Until next time. We're sending all the love and then some more. We'll talk tomorrow. Thank you for exploring with me today. I would love to continue this conversation with you. We can do that at laurachristine. us. You'll find contact in the menu or you can go to laurachristine. us slash contact and you'll be taken right to it. Let's dive in a little deeper and see how fully we can flow with the duh.